Although I can certainly appreciate you’re a unique individual in your own right, I do usually like to observe and start the conversation with the things we all have in common.
I think it’s undeniable that we all share some foundations, some basic truths that somehow shapes your reality as an individual.
So what do we all have in common exactly?
Well, we are all born and we all have to die (that’s kind of a big one).
We all have physical bodies, grounded in biology.
We are all subject to basic biological drivers (to eat, drink, sleep, procreate and to survive)
We all want to feel safe and secure.
We are ultimately social creatures and benefit from a sense of belonging.
We all live on earth and have to contend with the natural elements.
We are natural beings (and organisms).
We all have to interact with other people at some point in our lives.
We all have to navigate our own way through life and deal with the complexities and challenges it throws at us – meaning we all suffer and we all struggle at some point.
So the question to you is, what do you do with all that, how do you deal with it?
I could probably argue that there’s much more to it, but I think most people would be comfortable accepting those as basic building blocks.
My point is, your life will be much better served if you learn to appreciate those things that we all have in common, as they are the foundations on which your life is built.
There’s really no point in sugar coating reality.
What is that thing at your core that makes you human and makes you uniquely you (as an individual)?
Without taking the time to get to the heart of the matter and face up to what it is that ultimately drives you, it’s difficult to move forward in any kind of meaningful way.
As Socrates suggested ‘an unexamined life is not worth living’, meaning that; only through self-examination can you ever come to embrace the totality of your humanity – and to feel truly ‘whole’.
Now I said feel whole, not feel 'good' - there's a difference.
There’s a lot there to discuss and to further explore, enough to span a lifetime in fact.
But in my opinion, it’s in the exploring and in the moving forward towards embracing your humanity where life is actually lived.
If you’re building your life or trying to navigating your way through it right now – then it would make sense to establish some strong foundations first. So when the storms do sweep in, which they inevitably will, you'll be well prepared to deal with them.