The Lonely Heart
Updated: Jan 3, 2020
There’s nothing quite like the pain of a lonely heart
Clutching at life, holding on, looking for a break, waiting for something or someone to extend a hand.
Loneliness dwells in the heart,
It has very little to do with how many people you know and everything to do with being (and feeling) understood
With being (or feeling) valued
With having the ability to connect and feel connected
About finding your place in the world, fitting in.
It’s a dark place, sometimes filled with bitterness and resentment
Leading to increased, self-imposed isolation, building up barriers within your self
Loneliness has nothing to do with being alone and more to do with being unable appreciate your own company
A sense of loss, not knowing yourself
It’s about looking your self in the mirror and not seeing through the pretence
Not being able to connect with the essence of who you are
About not understanding what you stand for and as a result not being able to recognise these qualities in others.
So overcoming loneliness is very much about reconnecting with your roots and finding your people
It’s not about relationships; it’s about the right relationships.
It’s not about knowing people, it's about deep human connection.
Being fully present and knowing what you can offer.
It’s about reciprocity, shining your light and having that reflected back at you.
It’s about turning darkness into light
Despair into hope
Resentment into gratitude
Allowing light in, even if through the cracks in your heart.
And where you can see no light shining in on you, then taking it upon yourself, to at least try and be that light to others.