Opening Your Mail
Updated: Jan 3, 2020
Imagine receiving a letter every day (old school) for a couple of months and instead of opening it and responding, you leave it unattended on the dining table (or in your inbox).
After a couple of months you’ll notice your mail piling up, in fact, there’s so much of it now, you have no idea where to begin.
This analogy is equally relevant to other parts of your life.
Leaving things unattended or unresolved keeps it fresh and active in your mind, looping around in your thought process until you’ve done something about it.
Now if you have a tendency to ‘put things off until later’ you’ll find this will begin to cause you a sense of uneasiness, anxiety and stress, especially as things begin to pile up.
In psychology this is referred to as the Zeigarnik Effect.
The Zeigarnik effect is a phenomenon describing the minds tendency to remember interrupted or incomplete tasks more easily than completed ones.
In short, your brain prioritises things that it considers unresolved
Keeping an open thought loop going until such time it considers it resolved.
If you find yourself overthinking or perhaps you're having trouble sleeping,
If you suffer with stress or anxiety,
Then it could very well be the case that you are avoiding something (or lots of things)
It could also very well be that you have a general tendency to hesitate when making decisions, procrastinate, avoid, not take responsibility or pass up opportunities as they arise.
All of a sudden you find yourself stuck with so many open thought loops,
So many things going on in your mind, that just like the unattended mail, it begins to pile up
All of a sudden you’re experiencing a sense of chaos, perhaps even regret, bitterness and resentment with no idea where to start.
The point is to start,
Why delay until tomorrow what you can do today?
Start at the top of the pile and cross the items off one by one.
Take the opportunities as they are arise, stop delaying, stop avoiding, stop hesitating and stop succumbing to fear and doubt..
Because despite what you may believe, your mind does like a sense of order
And contentment is found when everything in your life is as it should be,
So it may be about time you turn some 'no’s' into 'yes’s', go from being 'passive' into being 'active' and begin putting things back in their proper place.
You'll be giving your mind a bit of a break in the process!