The Darker Side of Self-Love

Updated: Aug 23, 2021



As a concept, the idea of self-love is a difficult one to deny.

I think we can agree that self-loathing is not a healthy alternative.

But to me, self-love, or at least how it’s come to be understood is a tricky one.

I’ve always understood Love as a much broader concept.

Not confined to ones self or to others, but rather as all encompassing

You either have Love, live with Love and in Love, or you live devoid of it.

As Rumi, the great Sufi poet once wrote,

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.

And herein lies the point.

Love in and of itself is not something to be pursued, because the source of life itself is Love.

It’s your default,

It's the state you rise to, when you finally surrender to it

Breaking down the barriers you have built against, all of which usually resides in your ego. <