Updated: Jan 3, 2020
You are wired to seek and long for human connection – that urge deep inside of you to be loved, to be heard, to be respected.
To be valued and to mean something to someone else or to others
This ability for connection and cooperation is central to the human experience; in a sense it’s what elevates humans above other species.
Too often, as we try to connect with others, we inadvertently put our own needs, desires and wants first.
I want to connect with you.
I need to connect with you.
I believe it’s important to connect with you.
I think our relationship is important.
But with this 'I' comes a certain limitation.
A limitation that suggests that when you constantly elevate your own needs above the needs of others, you automatically create a barrier for real deep and meaningful human connection.
Love expressed in its purest form has a selfless element to it.
A humility that keeps your ego in check
It’s in the dissolution of the ego where the most meaningful human connection can begin to flourish.
It's in this dissolution of your ego when you're also able to establish a sense of peace with yourself.
A letting go of sorts, that allows you to offer yourself to others (of perceived worth) without pre-conditions, making real human connection possible.
It's in this offering where you are extending an invitation in the truest sense. The onus then is on others to appreciate and accept your invitation; sowing the seeds.
Whether we are capable of such Love (and self offering) is another matter, but what I have come to understand, is that for any meaningful relationship (or connection) to ultimately take root,
Love not only needs to be present, it also needs to be both expressed and reciprocated.
It’s in this interaction, in this offering, this giving and receiving - that the space and potential is created for human connection to occur.