• Michael Dahdal

It Takes A Village

Updated: Jan 3, 2020


Modern parenting is tough.

Granted, parents today face very different challenges to what our ancestors endured; but the challenges today are still very relevant and very real.

In generations past, parents were primarily concerned with keeping their children fed, healthy and alive – today, it’s also about keeping them engaged and entertained.

I’m sure you’ve heard the old adage; ‘it takes a village to raise a child’.

There’s some real fundamental truth embedded in that.

So often I encounter parents, particularly mothers that can’t stand the guilt of leaving their children whilst they go to work.

They have somehow convinced themselves that they are bad parents.

But what these parent’s don’t realise, is that raising children in isolation is not natural. Villages were consciously designed to bring communities together, not to keep them apart.

The family was not just the nucleus, but extended to aunties, uncles, grandparents and cousins, all living side by side.

Keeping the children healthy and alive, whilst instilling some underlying sense of shared values and responsibility, was enough.

Now it’s not.

Now we also have to give them that competitive edge, lest they be devoured by the world or somehow be deemed failures.