Updated: Jan 3, 2020
The word resolution literally means ‘to resolve’.
So it’s that time of year where everyone is throwing around his or her resolutions – but somewhere along the way, the resolution became some kind of outward projection akin to setting goals.
The resolution has now somehow come to represent inviting new things into your life as opposed to first getting your existing house in order.
One approach encourages you to project into the future and and the other asks you to reflect on your past and
present and ask yourself the question:
“What should I be doing, that I am currently not doing?”
You see, your mind doesn’t like unfinished business. It’s actually evolved to remember uncompleted tasks over completed ones.
So when you leave something unresolved, this creates an open loop, it’s lingering, always there, like a fly that won’t go away.
It breeds discontentment, maybe even guilt, because you’re not living up to your own expectations of yourself in a sense.
This misalignment is what keeps you up at night and chips away at your soul, little by little until eventually you fall into a state of hopelessness, everything seems beyond your control.
So if you’re not sure where to start this year, consider this - start by taking care of business.
Clean your room
Pay your unpaid bills and make a commitment to pay them on time.
Have that conversation you know you need to have with someone you've been avoiding
Finish your CV or apply for that job
Write that book you’ve always wanted to write, just one sentence at a time.
Reach out to that person you’re always thinking about.
Whatever it is, stop avoiding it and start attending to it.
If there’s one thing you might want to aim for this year, then it might simply be, to do what you know in your heart is the right thing to do and that you should be doing.
This is a need, not a want.
Don’t go setting yourself some new goals if you still haven’t properly dealt with everything you currently have on your plate.
Resolution - that real sense of resolution; if nothing else will bring you contentment and contentment is a good thing to aim for.