The Stories We Tell
Updated: Jan 3, 2020
Everything is a story.
How you view the world is very much dependant on the story (or stories) you tell yourself.
All the underlying assumptions you hold are built on a kind of narrative structure.
This structure is what ultimately allows you to navigate the world and make sense of things, it's the foundation on which your lived experience is built on.
Your whole belief system is predicated on the stories that you’ve adopted or created for yourself.
But what happens if your story isn’t too clear?
If you’re not sure what the story is or what character you've been cast as?
If you observe closely enough, you’ll actually find yourself already acting it out – the script is there, you just haven’t articulated it yet.
You’ve been involved in some kind of improvisation, trying to figure things out as you go.
So taking the time to write it out, detaching yourself from it and looking at it a little more objectively, has some infinite value – because without understanding the role you’re playing, you’ll always be at the mercy of others.
Playing a role in someone else's film, without ever having the opportunity to develop and star in your own.
Now the more you tell yourself the story, the more embedded it becomes in your psyche.
And if the story is repeated enough times and then again reinforced by your experience, it will eventually become a fundamental truth that you hold.
So it’s important you remain watchful and understand the reality that you're cultivating.
What is the story you’re telling yourself?
Are you the victim or the hero, the success or the failure?
Are you alone, loved or loathed?
Is the world a horrible or beautiful place?
What role are you playing and in what kind of play?
Where do you fit in, how do you interact with the other characters and why?
How did your story begin and how will it ultimately end?
You'll find a disconnect beginning to emerge when your 'lived experience' doesn’t align with the story you’ve been telling yourself.
At which point, you have a decision to make.
The decision to double down and project your own story onto the world, or the decision to accept the limitations of your story and look at restructuring the narrative all together.
Which approach do you think would make more sense?