Updated: Jan 3
Growing up has very little to do with age and everything to do with responsibility.
If nothing else, at least taking full responsibility for your own life and the set of circumstances you find yourself in.
Children, by their very nature are dependent, that’s what they do.
They rely on guidance from their parents (for good reason) and they tend to shift blame when things go wrong.
When was the last time you saw a child voluntarily take responsibility for something, admit a fault and work to make things good again?
If anything, the state of childhood can be boiled down to those two variables, firstly, the shifting of blame onto others and secondly, the reliance on someone else to do things for you.
So essentially, you can be 40, 50 or even 60 and still be displaying behaviours classically attributed to children.
But who wants to grow up right?
Responsibility is over rated, it’s restrictive, it’s not fun.
Peter Pan, often glamourised, is the poster boy for the man that refuses to grow up.
But think about it, there’s a reason he lives in Never Land.
There’s a reason he leads The Lost Boys.
He spends so much time in fantasy, that he never faces up to reality.
At a time when we are better off than we have ever been in the course of human history, still this angst seems to remain.
This ambiguity, confusion, and insecurity – the feeling of loss or like something is missing.
We are quick to shift blame and slow to accept responsibility.
We live on the back foot and not on the front foot.
We spend our time trying to avoid death, rather than actually living life.
So growing up is about moving into the fullness of your capabilities.
To acknowledge you have a part to play in your own successes and failures.
It's about not making excuses.
It’s about taking responsibility, not only for yourself, but for others around you.
It’s about moving forward into life and facing up to reality.
Taking all the good, with the bad and accepting your role in doing what needs to be done, despite your fears or inhibitions.