Updated: Jan 10
As a child, where are you most likely to go to seek comfort in times of distress?
The natural tendency would be to seek out your parent, that maternal and/or paternal figure in your life.
It makes sense, you’re lost, confused, unsure about how to behave or what you should do, so you seek that guidance from those that know you the best and you trust the most.
After all, that is where you came from, so you'd want to return to what is safe and familiar.
As you get older, you become independent.
You increasingly begin to isolate yourself, convinced that you can figure it all out yourself.
When your natural tendency used to be to seek comfort in others, now it’s all about saving yourself.
You’re told that you and only you has all the answers, they are all within you.
Your goal is self-care, self-actualisation, self-realisation, and self-salvation.
What if I told you, that your nature hasn’t changed at all.
What if I told you that it’s ok and even expected that you should seek comfort in or from someone or something else.
Why would this be so difficult grasp?
After all, in the context of the enormous magnitude of the universe, you, I, we are all still children, trying to find our way back home.
The self is nothing more than a manifestation of your own ego – and it has a way of convincing you that you are not only more than adequate, but somehow also entitled.
That your success is a result of how great you are and your struggles can be overcome if you only worked that little bit harder.
If you just put that little bit of extra effort in.
If you were just that little bit smarter.
You’re convinced that all the answers lay within you.
And herein is the problem.
You can’t figure it all out and you probably never will.
From the dust you rise and from the dust you shall return – that’s the reality of it.
So where then do you go to seek comfort in this century of the self?
I won’t give you that answer, but logic will tell you that your heart has a natural yearning to be home.