• Michael Dahdal

Fitting In And Standing Out

Updated: Jan 10, 2020


I know the common narrative in pop-culture is this inherit need to embrace your individualism and to do what you can to stand out.

I’ve always struggled with that notion.

Why would you want to stand out exactly?

Fame? Ego? Validation?

Enhancing your prospects of finding a suitable mate?

Maybe it’s influence?

If that’s the case, whom are you trying to influence exactly and why?

I’m not discounting the fact that you have unique qualities; of course, these should be embraced and nurtured.

Nor am I advocating that you become some superficial version of yourself in order to fit in nor to simply hide within your comfort zone.

However, I don’t think the concept of ‘fitting in’ more broadly is such a bad thing.

There’s actually humility in it.

You’re a social animal; meaningful human connection is vital to your ability to thrive and loneliness is a proven killer.