Knowing What You Want
Updated: Jan 10, 2020
I know it’s difficult to map a way forward if you don’t know what you want exactly.
There’s no easy answer to this question, knowing what you want requires knowing who you are and what you’re all about.
That usually happens through experience, through exploring, listening, watching, learning, trying things, developing your understanding about what you like and don’t like and more importantly about what works and what doesn’t.
It’s a process, it takes time and even once you think you’ve got it, an experience may get you reconsidering and all of a sudden you find yourself back at square one.
Going in circles, doesn't get you anywhere, so at some point, you’ll need to get firm and make some commitments.
I know that’s a little easier said than done, but it’s the only thing that will keep you moving forward.
So then, if you don’t know what you want, where is the best place for you to start?
In my opinion, you’re likely to have the most success by first establishing, without a doubt, what you don’t want.
That's right, establishing what you definitely DON'T WANT.
What are you not willing to tolerate or put up with?
In a relationship.
Once you’ve done that, you at least know what to steer clear of, leaving you open to an infinite set other possibilities. Then it's time for you to start exploring, knowing at least what you need (or want) to consciously avoid.