Catching Up With An Old Friend
Updated: Jan 10, 2020
Certain people have a profound impact on your life.
As a human, you are naturally a social creature, so in that sense, the need for connection is a fundamental part of who you are.
Sometimes your interaction with your family or neighbours is purely obligatory, a way of maintaining and re-enforcing the social fabric of the community you’re a part of.
Other times, your friends or family offer you a support network, helping you navigate your way through life.
In an age where seeking freedom and independence is 'cool', there is an increased danger of disconnection and personal isolation.
This is not natural.
You were not meant to live alone - nor struggle alone, nor celebrate your successes alone.
It’s not that you need to be dependent on others as such – but I do believe that a sense of 'inter-dependence' is inherently valuable.
That is, two (or more) individuals that work together and collectively support each other - whilst still maintaining a personal sense of independence.
This way you don't work in isolation, but you don't lose your sense of self in the process either.
I believe this is the sweet spot – not dependence, nor independence, but inter-dependence.
Now if you were to take it up another level, the people in your life, should really be a source of nourishment.
Like good food or like spending time in nature – spending time with people should also be nourishing.
How many people in your life can you honestly say nourish your soul in that way?
Some people are intent on always taking, others have this special ability to nourish – so being able to distinguish between the two will serve you well.
Today, I caught up with an old friend.
It was a simple catch up, unexpected, in down town Ubud – but seeing the message pop up on my screen put a smile on my face and even the shortest catch up over lunch was enough nourishment for a week - so thought that was relevant for me to share.