On Fear and Courage
Updated: Jan 10
When was the last time you wanted to do something, but you were so afraid that you ultimately just stagnated and did nothing … again?!
What if it’s the wrong decision?
What if it’s too dangerous?
What if I look bad and people laugh at me?
What if people gossip?
What if I fail?
What if I waste my money?
What if I miss out?
What if I'm getting conned?
What if, what if, what if…
Before we get too carried away, it’s important to know that fear is not a bad thing, it’s actually necessary.
Our brains are programmed to look at the negatives first as the default; this is what ultimately helps us survive. We assess risks; we don’t trust right away, we give more value to negative reviews rather than positive ones.
The pertinent question is however, to what extent do we allow our fears to control us?
What if you lived in a perpetual state of fear, how will that affect your life?
What if fear could be manufactured and we were controlled by fear, what would happen then?
I can tell you what will happen.
You will probably get nothing done.
You will probably never experience anything new.
You probably won’t experience as much growth as you’d like to.
You will probably get so comfortable in your comfort zone that you'll never want to leave it again.
The world is such a dangerous place; OR is it?
This is where I think we need to get clear.
Living a full and rich life takes a little courage and courage is not moving forward in the absence of fear, but moving forward despite of it.
There is no courage in doing something you’re not afraid of – zero, zilch, nada.
If you have the will, you will usually find a way, otherwise, there are only usually excuses; one after the other and nothing ever changes.
The question then is, are you looking for a way in, or a way out – as I’m pretty sure you could rationalise your arguments either way depending on your predisposition?!
The cost we pay for lacking courage is experiencing more and more of the same.
That’s not necessarily a bad thing, it’s just important to recognize.
If you’re looking for change, then at some point you’re going to have to try something different – no ifs, or buts, it’s just the way it is.